As I am going through treatment, reading articles and social media has been some of my down time due to not being able to do much, but rest and gain my strength back.
After seeing a couple of tweets about Bobby Ryan deleting his social media page, I really took that controversy to heart. I haven’t spoken to Bobby or his family, but it made me think that this is a topic I would like to personally address my view and attacks. Whatever he maybe going thru and that is a BIG if, since social media posts false reports, my heart goes out to him and his family.
I remember vividly in pre-season (2016) when Craig left for a personal reason to fly to Florida to be with me during the traumatic event of losing our daughter at sixteen weeks. It was a devastating time in our life. I can recall reading negative comments of his personal leave judging his character and dependability to the job he loves dearly. People were bashing my husband with negative comments that were so hard to swallow. How could people respond negatively when they really don’t know what goes on behind closed doors? How could you tweet something you have no idea the reason? How could you write articles to create controversy on circumstances people have no control over?
Then it happened again, Craig flew home to me again with my diagnosis with cancer, people took to twitter to judge his character again. After it was announced, there was even one tweet, I have stapled in my mind, “He should be home with his dying wife.” Who has the audacity to even write that? I did respond to that tweet. I simply said, “We would would love to sit down with you for dinner and talk.” Of course, no response. Thankfully, I am blessed with friends that immediately took to twitter and the account was taken down.
No one should have to be bullied on social media. I am really thankful, Craig stays away from social media. I can’t blame him. Twitter wasn’t made to personally attack anyone. Believe me, tweeting things like, “How do you miss that one?” to me is fine. I am the first to chirp my husband on things, but to personally attack people on their personal issues in my eyes is down right disrespectful and rude. Remember everyone is human and faces battles. Our first thought should be, “I hope they are ok.”
It seems like our world jumps to conclusions, and states negativity without knowing the facts. This was my husband they were talking about. The man I love who gives his heart and soul to my family and his career. I told myself to be the better person and not respond to nonsense. But how can we make these issues stop? What happen to encouraging others and promoting a positive atmosphere where people can flourish to their highest level? I would think encouraging tweets would motivate someone to give it their all.
I can only speak for my behalf, but all the athletes that I have come in contact with, dedicate their lives to their career. They work extremely hard all year to play the game they love. This means dedicating themselves in the off-season to train, eating a healthy diet, giving up social events; to focusing their season on winning day in and day out. An athlete is born with this competitive gene I can’t describe. Their passion to win is to another level. To hear the negativity when anyone gets hurts, blows my mind. Let me tell you from a wives standpoint, we cringe when they are hurt, because they are miserable until they get the clearance to play again.
On the contrary, some might respond that we should not read this stuff. But does it fix the inappropriate behavior?
As a former elementary teacher, I always made it a point to create an positive atmosphere for children where they can thrive and excel to reach their limits. We need to carry this thought into our adult lives. We teach our children to be nice to others, but as adults we need to model this too. Whether if it is our everyday living or teaching people how to use social media correctly. No one understands someone until you walk the shoes of that person. We need to be less judgmental and more encouraging in this world.
I believe we are family. In a positive environment we will get more out of someone then kicking them to the ground. Reading hurtful comments truly can make a person upset. It did for me. I wish we could ride a positive wave, and create an atmosphere where everyone’s energy level thrives to the fullest and pushes each other to be better.
One last thing, I remember a couple years ago, April Reimer, created a hashtag #tweetsweet. Twitter wasn’t designed to bash someone’s character. Maybe we should keep #tweetsweet in the back of our minds before creating a tweet.